When we talk of childcare and parenthood, we think of
both the parents. However, now, in the era of conflicting values and
lifestyle, when divorces are the norm, a single parent does not look
odd. There are whole lot of single parents in different regions and with
different reasons. What are those reasons is not the subject matter of
the issue here, as we prima facie accept that some parents are carrying
their children singly and they have certain issues with them too.
Bringing children singly is not an easy task, but single parents do not
have other choice. In fact, they have some major issues, which include
the fear of loneliness, financial insecurities and complexity in
bringing up children alone. If a person is strong, the chances of his or
her survival are greater. However, many a times, single parents succumb
to tormenting pressure and expectations. Single parenting is toll taking
and only tough people can survive in it.
When single parenting is your destiny, accept the responsibility and
challenges of it. Don't exaggerate problems, rather seek solutions. You
are bound to have certain problems that would not have been there if
other partner had been there. But, situation is not so and you have to
undergo this. Acknowledge the difficulties such as lack of personal
time, restricted social life, sole responsibility for meeting multiple
needs, and financial stress. You can not complain for these to any one.
If you are single by choice, you already knew what would be the
implication of your decision. Single parents, of this category, do not
usually have so many problems as they are well prepared mentally. The
issues with single parents, who have been forced by nature or other
partner, have emotional problems in bringing their children up. This
category of parents needs to prepare themselves better, for they have to
live life like this from now.
Positives of Single Parenting
In case of single parents, one fact is luminary, that they make the
family their highest priority. They focus on childcare most and try to
be the best possible parent at any cost. There can not be any denial of
the fact that single parents genuinely like and enjoy children and for
that, they sacrifice their precious time, money, and energy. The
dialectic is understandable from point that they try to compensate for
the love and affection of other partner to their children.
Other positive thing about single parenting is single parents are open
enough with their ward in communication. Their children become their pal
and this is really an exciting experience. Single parents try to fill
the space created by their half by interacting with their children and
gradually, develop better relations. The healthy interaction leads to a
trustworthy and honest relationship between single parents and their
children.
This relationship also inculcates values of individualism and
independence in children. Single parents are better home managers; in
the sense they know that they have to manage everything on their own.
Single parents also try to give maximum time to their kids and
themselves, as they do not have to care for other partner and they have
time to themselves and their ward and for no one else. In short single
parenting has its own pain and bliss, some good and some to miss.
